I know I've been scarce lately, but I've been checking in frequently to check on all my blogger friends. Especially Diane from Snowflakes in the Rain whose story of resilience and strength is so amazing to me. As I'm trudging through my final semester of nursing school, I find myself with very little time to search through the endless profiles of donors out there. I was doing some ironing today and watching A Baby Story and that prompted me to check the cryobanks website and see if any new donors appeared.
I found one that I'm pretty excited about, but he's an anonymous donor. Since we realized that we were going to have to use a donor, I've wanted to find someone who was comfortable with being contacted by our children if they chose to reach out. This donor meets all of our criteria except that. And in all reality, that's not one of "our" criteria. It's more mine. DH would rather this be a completely anonymous donor. I understand his feelings and I have no desire to know this man, but I want my child to have the option of knowing him, if they want. I have no idea how we are going to have this conversation with our children when the time comes, but I don't want that anonymity to make this any harder for our kids. I guess I'll have to leave this one in the Lord's hands and see where He leads.
As for an update...we did meet with our RE on February 5th to discuss our options and see what testing would need to be repeated since our attempts with embryo adoption in 2011. Their requirements are a lot easier than our previous clinic and I'll just need to repeat the HSG and day 3 blood work as well as a new genetic test that they now have available to screen for Fragile X.
We met with the financial counselor there who told us that there was a chance that insurance wouldn't cover the IUI because we were using donor sperm, but that they would submit anyway and see. She called a few days later to tell us that insurance would, in fact, cover the procedure, but not the cost of the sperm (which we expected). While paying out of pocket for this wouldn't be nearly as costly as the embryo adoption, it's still a huge weight off our shoulders knowing that they'll cover our first 3 attempts.
I've been doing OPKs and temping each morning and have narrowed down my ovulation schedule, but will probably still do the monitored cycle as opposed to monitoring myself at home. We'll save the DIY cycles for when the insurance runs out! ;) I plan to do the blood work and HSG during my next cycle if my work and school schedule permits and then we'll be ready to go. I have a brief break between my final exam in nursing school and the internship starting at my hospital. The plan is to squeeze in a cycle sometime between May 14th (the day I take my final) and July 1st (internship starts). The first few weeks of the internship will be Monday-Friday and it will be next to impossible to get to the RE's office for an IUI. If that cycle isn't successful, then we'll give it another shot in the fall once I'm finished the internship.
I must say...I'm feeling better about things now that we have a plan! Just wish I could hit fast forward through the next couple months, but I know it'll be here before I know it.
